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Am a girl of 28, i am the first daughter/ child out of 2( my brother). My parents have being making decisions for me even as an adult even when i dont want, my mum blackmails me emotionally that i dont want her happiness so i end up doing what she wants at the expense of my happiness.I was 21 and dated a guy of 31 who proposed to me and met my mum but she turned him down because he isnt from where she wants.( am igbo and she insists i must marry igbo). After that i left the guy cos my mum refused and several others she turns down because they aint igbo.i talk to her alot and she blames me for not marrying igbo guys that came my way and those guys where still my age bracket not ready to settle down
I met my man 4years ago. We started dating and i told my mum. (He isnt igbo).
She said nothing and later insists that i should leave the relationship. I agreed even though i loved this guy but just to make her happy. We seperated but still spoke and along the line, my friend used the opportunity to follow him and when she saw we were getting back, she played a fastone and took in so he will marry her but he told her he cant that he loves me. He came back and told me and i forgave him cos i caused the gap and i said i will take the child as mine. He proposed to me and i told my mum about him again and the child and she swore we cant marry.That he isnt an igbo guy and he has a child…but am convinced that this is who i want to be with but she keeps saying am depriving her of being happy. Meanwhile am the one sufferring.Please family, am i wrong to marry who i want? This is the 5th suitor she has turned down.should i please her again and remain unhappy? Is it my fault that i dont fall inlove with igbo men?what do i do? Have been praying…i need advise please